My mother modeled thrift, the legacy of growing up the oldest of nine born to a struggling farmer during the Great Depression. Some of those habits she passed on to me, even though I grew up in a middle-class home where we didn't have to pass on worn clothes to the next-younger sibling or grow a garden to feed all those mouths.
Even now, though I could just toss-and-buy-new, I try to stretch the life of “life's stuff,” like my cozy wear-to-bed socks. It's second nature to me to slip that holey sock onto a burned-out light bulb, and stitch the hole. I know such thrift is becoming rare these days. It's so easy to just toss, run to the local mega-mart, and buy a package of new whatevers.
As I stitched my holey sock closed, I thought of today's scarcity of “emotional menders.” That's what I call people who can graciously perceive others' wrongdoings and do what they can to heal the situation. Because they embrace moral responsibility and justice, they want to “fix” things. Help the offender turn away from hurtful words and actions. Bind up wounds.
Sadly, “offenders” don't always want to be around “menders.” Maybe the “offender” can't let go of negative emotions and actions. Perhaps pursuing peaceful solutions wasn't modeled for them. Or something from long ago changed them into “demanders” instead of “menders.”
Nobody said it would be easy. Sometimes we have to commit that person and situation into God's better way of mending:
If it is possible, as far as it depends on you, live at peace with everyone. Do not take revenge...but leave room for God's wrath....Do not be overcome by evil, but overcome evil with good. (Romans 12:18-19, 21)
I'm all for mending—not just socks with a bit of useful life left in them, but people damaged by life's rips and tears. Jesus waits for us to bring these sorrows to Him. To gather them into His nail-stabbed hands, and mend as only He can.